Something I've Been Afraid to Share

Earlier this week I sent a newsletter about my trip to Paris last week, where I met women from all over the world that I've been working with the past 6 months. Our meeting in Paris was like a graduation if you will. We spent 2 days looking back on where we've come these past 6 months and created a plan for the next 90 days going forward in our businesses. Successful people usually have some sort of game plan to go by!

 

I've really thought long and hard about this post. In fact I wasn't even sure I would send it and as I type the letters now there is a good chance that I might not hit send when I'm done. I know I've said it a lot, that this trip was amazing and that I always knew I would get to go back to Paris. I've used that many times in my messaging however this is first time I've actually told the real story about why.

I've never been vulnerable when it comes to my personal life in my business but I'm about to open up to you about why Paris means so much to me and why I'm using it in my branding. 

I hope that me opening up to you is proof that you can do anything and you can have the life you desire.     

Back in 2010 I came to Paris with my then boyfriend of 4 years. I had always dreamed of Paris. I love the city before I even stepped foot in it because I had studied the art and architecture in college. It was a dream of mine to be able to visit. At the time I was working my first real design job out of college, only making 27K a year. My boyfriend on the other hand did really well for himself and we traveled often, so he planned to take me to Paris. While there he proposed at the very tip top of the Eiffel Tower, in the restaurant at the top. As a matter of fact these black and white photos are my engagement photos

Every girls dream right?  

I wont lie, it was magical. Then again Paris is magic. 

Fast Forward 6 months and that relationship came to a screeching halt and my world was turned upside down. I randomly found out that he had been married twice and had a child from an ex-girlfriend that I never knew about. He had lied even though I asked those types of questions when we met and what's worse is he wasn't caring for his responsibility as a father. 

I thought long and hard about it. About the kind of woman I wanted to be and what my worth was and ultimately made the decision to end the relationship. It was the hardest choice I've ever had to make but I knew I wanted more for my life than one built on lies and unhappiness.  

One of the last things he said to me was "you better make sure this is what you want because nobody will ever give you the life and things that I have given you."

After that I made it a mission to do everything we had ever done together over again, but this time on my own dime. I redid all the local places, I took myself to Hawaii again (our first BIG trip together) and last week to Paris. I booked an expensive hotel, ate and did what I wanted. Not only did I take myself to Paris but I built a life for myself that allowed me to go and it revolved around business, not one that someone "gave" to me. When I say the redo was better than I could have ever imagined for myself, I mean it!

Nobody should ever be made to feel like they are stuck in a situation or that things are only as good as they currently are. In my case this came from a former significant other but sometimes we also hear things like this from bosses, parents, co-workers, and/or friends. 

Things are never as good as they currently are, they're better, and I'm proof of that. 

You create your life, nobody else. You get to decide what it looks like, the places you'll go, the people you work with. You even get to decide how happy you are. 

If someone does tell you that you can't or that you're stuck, use those words to fuel you fire. You may not know when or how it's going to get better but that doesn't matter right now. I knew 6 years ago I wanted to redo Paris more than anything else. I didn't know when or how but I knew it would happen and it did. Granted, I didn't just sit there and wait. I positioned myself and took leaps and risk in life and in business to get there. I trusted my path and judgement. I also trusted the desire to build success all on my own. 

 

If you're sitting here reading this, living a life you hate. Being TOLD by someone that you'll never have better, or FEELING like you'll never have better. Being told you can't be creative or spending your time in a soul sucking job making someone else rich with your talent. Then I urge you to act on those words and feelings to change them. You hold your future in your hands!

 

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